Life is full of helpful reminders. Or as I like to call them, “refresher courses.”
For instance, that time I “lost my shirt” in a Ponzi scheme—it was a refresher course in the notion that you don’t get something for nothing.
Or the time my students had to wait for me nearly an hour because my morning alarm was set to p.m. instead of a.m. That was a refresher course in the importance of double-checking my alarm before bed.
I was once chewed out by a friend after giving him some honest feedback. That was a refresher course in using more restraint when it comes to offering unsolicited advice.
We go through refresher courses all the time. If you’re experiencing an emotionally draining, time-consuming, or unnecessarily expensive situation, you’re in a refresher course.
While it may be tempting to get caught up in the drama of it all, and assign blame to the other person, it’s better to spend time figuring out the point of the lesson, so you can end the pattern.